For all you 'Pandemic Parents' (anyone who has had a baby during COVID) - there have been a few misses during your early parenting days. Primarily, being able to get together with other parents in the throws of early parenthood to grind out our mutual survival.
Don't get me wrong! I love my baby, I'm as happy as a clam, BUT am I frustrated that I can't go to parent participation and share in mom-findings, pro tips passed on from more seasoned parents and (most importantly after class) whine while drinking wine - you bet your athleta loungewear I am!
And here's the rub for me - I actually know a good number of Pandemic Parents, but can I go and see them? NO! Can we hang out and share in said mutual survival? NO! Is wine getting sipped? Yes, but I currently drink alone with George Thorogood.
So, when I heard through the grapevine of Mom's that my cousin's wife was struggling with a child who would not sleep - I reached out to offer my mini amount of advice. The top 3 pieces of advice: 1) buy black out curtains, 2) use that white noise machine and 3) use overnight diapers... And a semi-tip/suggestion to pause a few minutes before running into your babies bedroom (they are trying to figure out how to sleep on their own if we'd stop interrupting them).
Here's my rant - this is where COVID has f*ed with us Mom's - girlfriend had no idea overnight diapers existed. None, zero - she was going about her life struggle bussin' and had no idea this wonderful item was about to become one of her saving graces to better sleep!
We are SO connected, one might argue overly connected, but during this time as a Mom, we're also appallingly alone. There's no manual to raising kids, and certainly none for during a pandemic. So when these glimmers of usable information get passed along - it can mean A WORLD of difference to someone. In this instance, my cousin's wife.
She had not had one full night's of sleep in over 6 months. She'd bought the books, tried the methods, and was still at a loss. On the verge of hiring a consultant, I reached out with the above pieces of advice from a consultant I had used. Can you guess what made the difference? Those damn diapers.
"I used to have higher aspirations, now I only aspire to have a full night's sleep." The elusive mistress came round after sharing the existence of a diaper. A diaper! As we wrap up sleep awareness week, what I wanted to remind all caregivers of tiny people is that although each of your situations are unique, and your lives all your own - your struggles are not.
We all face a subset of the same challenges; lack of sleep, puke covered clothes, endless diaper changes and a knowing that each day may be a new set of challenges BUT on the flip side, we can tap into a larger consciousness of parents. I hope that this week, you reach out to a pandemic parent and ask the question, "how are you doing, truly?' Because you may be the one person that makes A WORLD of difference 🙂.
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